The Couples' Network - Relationships between men and women are difficult enough with the pressures of jobs, money, children, bills and family matters. When the issue of transgenderism is added to this already boiling cauldron, it's good to know that there are others who have successfully navigated through this stretch of water. You are not alone, nor are you in unexplored territory.
Dana Bourne, webDOTgal - Resources for transgendered people and their significant others.
Gender Mirror - Nice site by a transman-transwoman couple. Includes "the first ever public photo of a transman and transwoman kissing" and a sample from their upcoming book.
If You're Going to Be a Female, Please Don't Be an Airhead - "I'm 39 years old, and about two decades ago I made a decision to reject some of the feminine frippery that I found--to dust off a phrase from the Sixties--demeaning to women. I'm talking about makeup, unnaturally curly hair, nails long enough to impair dexterity, shoes two sizes too small, starving oneself thin, and so on. (What twisted piece of karma gave me a husband who wears high heels is beyond me, but I can't help but see the humor in it.)"
Kathy and Amanda - A hetrosexual crossdresser and his wife share their biographies, pictures and real life adventures.
Melissa and Kath's Tea Time - A couple involved with a cross dressing relationship sharing with others what they have gone through.
Minnie Bruce Pratt - An amazing incredible poet-activist who writes prose poems like "Beatrice waits for the woman with eyes that say, Come with me. Into the rain-streaked street of night, the yellow leaves fallen like golden scars on black asphalt, they walk out their answer to the riddle, the woman who is not a man, the woman who is not a woman, following the yellow drift like fire around the corner."
An Open Letter to the Parents, Family and Friends of a Transsexual - "Since you are reading this, I assume that someone close to you, a friend or family member, has made what must appear to you to be a very shocking and perhaps disturbing disclosure. Your thoughts must be racing at this moment and your emotions are probably in a turmoil. You probably have many question. If you are concerned about the person, you probably have some fears. In this letter, I will try to answer some of those questions and deal with a few of those fears. I can speak with authority on this subject, because I am a transsexual."
Patty and Mikal - Mikal is 23 yrs. old and is a pre-everything FTM. Patty is 33 yrs. old and a bi femme boychick. They are looking to make new friends in this ever expanding FTM-S/O community.
Polare, the magazine of The Gender Centre - "A great many of the articles and stories appearing in transgendered publications center around the crossdresser´s needs, and rights, to express their feminine side. It is also a common theme to belittle or shame those who would deny or put limitations on this expression of self. Unfortunately while endorsing the rights of the transgendered, there is a tendency to ignore the very real feelings, needs and rights of the partners of these gender-gifted persons...."
Significance - Female to Male significant other support page. Seeking significant others to share experiences with and to encourage one and other. Please stop by.
Silence = Death - A great essay from the partner of an intersexed lesbian, about coming to identify as part of the transgender and intersex communities and unite in battle.
SOFFAs? Yes! - A little talk from the American Boyz page on our significant others and the transitions and challenges they face with us.
S.T.A.R.R North Carolina - STARR is a support group for heterosexual cross dressers and wives/SO's that meet on the second weekend of the month in a non sexual environment. Located in North Carolina.STARR has programs for both couples as well as the single members.
Star's T* SO Support Page - Extensive collection of support links, by leader of an Illinois support group for significant others of crossdressers.
Trans Forming Families Book - Excerpts - Little tastes of what's in the whole book, with captions like "Tell Grandma I'm a Boy" and "More Than 'Standing By My Trans'."
TransFamily Cleveland - TransFamily Cleveland is a support group for transgendered and transsexual people, their parents, partners, children, other family members, friends, and supportive others and provides referrals, literature, and over-the-phone information on all transgender issues.
TransParent Winter, 1997 - Including stories like "How did I start out with a melancholy Catholic daughter and end up with a contented Jewish son? (The tale of Philadelphia T*FAM)," "Life is more fun married to a transsexual," and "Mary Boenke - A PFLAG leader's lesbian daughter becomes her son."
Trans-Partners - Partnering issues in the transgendered community.
Transsexualism and Gender Transition FAQ - Information for friends, family, and co-workers of the transgendered person. Question and answer format. Supportive, simple, clear content.
TS and Marriage - "A couple enters a marriage because they care about the welfare of their partner. The couple agree to work together in times of health or sickness, during times of financial plenty or when disaster hits. Should one spouse be severely injured in an accident, would the other spouse immediately file for divorce because of such a change in the marriage situation? Very, very few would."
What If? - A lovely essay by a Quaker P-FLAG member. "Look, we take chances. We are in the business of saving lives. Lives of confused youth, lives of desperate adults. Does it make a difference? What is each of those lives worth? Who else is really fighting for those we seek to save?...There is a responsibility here. A responsibility that few are willing to accept. Most simply turn their faces away... what you can not see simply does not exist."
When you love the one you're with.... - "'Impossible! Ha Ha very funny! No Way! How? How could you?' and then stunned silence. These were some of the many reactions I had when my SO told me that he was transgendered. The man I loved with all my heart and soul, the man I promised to stand by through all of life's hardships and joys, the man I married wasn't a man at all. He was a woman born into a man's body."
Workshops Suggestions for FTM and SOFFAs - A list of about 26 workshops that Amboyz folks wrote up a few years ago to demonstrate how F2M issues can be inclusive of the whole spectrum of F2Ms as well as to soffas (significant others, friends, family, and allies).
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